I know that all of us have already experienced heartbreak- we’ve all been hurt. I know as well that when you were still with him, you already thought that he’s the only one for you to the extent that you even believed that person to be your soul mate.
I knew it because I have done that before. He was my everything but I realized only later that we were not good enough for each other. Perhaps because we have a lot of priorities before especially him. So time came when we decided to better end the relationship besides it’s also for our own good. Of course, there were a lot of crying on both our part and from the very last time, we felt that we really love each other but we have to really end it there.
Every day, I felt bad for leaving the person I love. We all know that dealing with breakup is probably one of the hardest things to deal with. There were even times that I wanted to call him but I cannot because I always have to look back on what was best for us.
So after almost a year of healing. I can confidently say that no matter how our relationship turned out, I am still thankful because it was handled in a nice way that allowed me to grow from it rather than to become bitter. No regret at all.
So if you’re one of those broken hearted then this post is for you. I have listed the five (5) keys that would at least help you to heal that broken heart and move on.
Disclaimer: This blog post is based on my opinion and own experiences.
1. Feel the pain
Moving on and getting back on track with your life after a breakup doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of small steps and the first step for me is to just “feel the pain”. Cry if you want. Shout if you want. You have to allow the pain to get into you and feel it. Because I do believe that when you allow yourself to feeling the pain and moving through it, you will at least feel better.
2. Stop Communicating with your ex
The idea of communicating to your ex is very tempting so when I say “stop communicating”, block them on facebook, their number, all their social media accounts and you may have to change your number as I have done all of these before. I know that not talking to your ex after a breakup maybe exceedingly hard but doing this will help the moving on process much easier.
Note: Try to stay away from your phone even just for one day.
3. Get rid of the things that remind you of him.
Let’s say the gifts that was given by your ex. Simply burn those things, some say it’s therapeutic and a bit odd but it’s the best way for me to get rid of the things that reminds you of your ex. If not, put his picture on a dartboard for a target practice. No! I’m just kidding. Hahaha 🤣✌ Seriously, burn those things or put them in a garbage bag.
4. Focus on your yourself and priorities
Always remind yourself every day of what is truly important. Focus on your work, your family, your friends and most importantly, you should focus and love yourself. I say, ex is an ex for a reason. There are so many people out there so don’t waste your time crying over a one person. You simply deserve better.!
And when I say priorities, let’s say for example you are still studying, then you should focus on your studies and aim high. You have to care about your future so failure in a relationship should not lead to failure in life.
5. Accept that it’s over
Accepting that a relationship is over is incredibly difficult. I know that there are times that you don’t believe it’s over and you’re still holding into hope. But let me tell you, the longer you hold on, the longer you are like torturing yourself. In that, you are less open to knowing and accepting anyone else.
Forget those memories with your ex. Go for a vacation with your friends and family and be the best you can while you are with them. Have fun, laugh, and get back to having a long and exciting conversations with them and start enjoying your life again. Accept that maybe you and your ex are not meant for each other. That maybe someone is destined to be your better half and not him. That maybe God is preparing a plan for you to meet someone new.
To be honest, it took me almost one year to let go about my feelings with my ex. And now, I am proud to say that I’m in a happy and healthy relationship for 51 months now.
So I just want to end this by saying, when you are dealing with a breakup now, take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Then after that, keep in mind that breakup is part of being in a relationship. It’s a platform for us to learn, grow and experience life itself.
That’s all for today. Let me know what you think about this post by commenting below.