It frustrates me sometimes when people see me and they were like,..Are you married? If not, get married now. You are old already and a lot of your friends were married so when is it your turn?
I was so irritated when I heard these words coming from a not so close “married friend with three kids already”. I was about to tell her that it’s not yet my priority and I don’t want to be competing with everyone around. I mean, just because she’s married or you are getting married, then I should be getting married as well. Like….what the hell!!! I am not so desperate that I will marry just anyone just because people around me are getting married. Besides, I am still young….HAHAHA So I’ll get there soon and not this time
Now, if you were married at a certain age then stop lecturing me to do the same! It’s my life! But let’s be clear, yes we all want to get married and without a doubt, I want to get married. However, this doesn’t have to happen tomorrow, next week, next month and even next .
Marriage is not a race and definitely not easy. Not to mention, I still don’t know how to cook a decent meal etc. so it’s a must to spend a great amount of time preparing for myself. And let me tell you, life is getting very formidable now. So I would never just tell anyone to get married because it is not something that has to be rushed. Hear me!?
I still don’t know when the right age to get married. I would want to get married in my twenties but because I’m in my twenties and perhaps not yet ready, I’m not in a hurry and whatsoever to make an enormous commitment at this time in my life because I am more focus on building myself for greatness before finally deciding to embark a forever journey with someone.
Also, I will be getting married because I know that I am ready and I feel like getting married and not because people around me are getting married. Know that marriage is not a race.
I have listed a few reasons why I am choosing not to get married this time:
1. I am not yet ready to start a family.
2. I want to travel. And if God will permit, to travel the world.
3. I am still learning how to cook a decent meal. But of course, I know how to cook rice, eggs, noodles and hotdogs.
4. I don’t need marriage before I can say that my partner is fully committed to me.
5. I am starting to know myself.
6. What’s the rush!?
Let me end this by telling you that marriage can wait. So don’t jump into hasty decision and don’t rush just because everyone is getting married. It’s important to be ready for it and all the responsibilities and negotiations it contains before saying “I do”.
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