“Don’t Rush: Get Married On Time”

It frustrates me sometimes when people see me and they were like,..Are you married? If not, get married now. You are old already and a lot of your friends were married so when is it your turn?

I was so irritated when I heard these words coming from a not so close “married friend with three kids already”. I was about to tell her that it’s not yet my priority and I don’t want to be competing with everyone around. I mean, just because she’s married or you are getting married, then I should be getting married as well. Like….what the hell!!! I am not so desperate that I will marry just anyone just because people around me are getting married. Besides, I am still young….HAHAHA So I’ll get there soon and not this time

Now, if you were married at a certain age then stop lecturing me to do the same! It’s my life! But let’s be clear, yes we all want to get married and without a doubt, I want to get married. However, this doesn’t have to happen tomorrow, next week, next month and even next .

Marriage is not a race and definitely not easy. Not to mention, I still don’t know how to cook a decent meal etc. so it’s a must to spend a great amount of time preparing for myself. And let me tell you, life is getting very formidable now. So I would never just tell anyone to get married because it is not something that has to be rushed. Hear me!?

I still don’t know when the right age to get married. I would want to get married in my twenties but because I’m in my twenties and perhaps not yet ready, I’m not in a hurry and whatsoever to make an enormous commitment at this time in my life because I am more focus on building myself for greatness before finally deciding to embark a forever journey with someone.

Also, I will be getting married because I know that I am ready and I feel like getting married and not because people around me are getting married. Know that marriage is not a race.

I have listed a few reasons why I am choosing not to get married this time:

1. I am not yet ready to start a family.

2. I want to travel. And if God will permit, to travel the world.

3. I am still learning how to cook a decent meal. But of course, I know how to cook rice, eggs, noodles and hotdogs.

4. I don’t need marriage before I can say that my partner is fully committed to me.

5. I am starting to know myself.

6. What’s the rush!?

Let me end this by telling you that marriage can wait. So don’t jump into hasty decision and don’t rush just because everyone is getting married. It’s important to be ready for it and all the responsibilities and negotiations it contains before saying “I do”.

Disclaimer: All photos was grabbed from Pinterest. Credits goes to its respective owners. 


Thank you for reading.

Till then,

Al_Yolly ❤


10 thoughts on ““Don’t Rush: Get Married On Time”

  1. The main reason not to marry is that you haven’t found a man you want to spend your life with. Who knows when or if that will happen. Too many people marry because they think it is time, not because it is right. I married at 41. A great age. 30 years this June.

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    1. Sorry for not mentioning that I’m in a relationship for 4 years now so the main reason is that, I am not yet ready.

      “Too many people marry because they think it is time not because it is right.” Double liking this. And I agree, I have a lot of friends who got married at the age of 25, 26 and 27 and it turned out to be a huge mistake (accoding to them) as they had rushed into this kind of decision without much thought. So for me, it’s always better to wait than to rush into something and then regret it later on.

      Besides, I believe that there is no limit to the “right age” to get married.

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  2. I support this….there’s is no need to rush when something better might be waiting for you….rushing into marriage is the worst thing to do….i believe its better to wait for the right time and the right person…its a life long commitment and should not be taking lightly

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  3. I know you are aware that I just celebrated my 50th anniversary because you commented. What you don’t know is I was just shy of 25 years old when I married. I think it was very beneficial to wait until I was a bit more mature, more educated and had seen a bit of the world. I sense that you are a level-headed girl not willing to rush into something under peer pressure. The right time will come, just be open to it!

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